Flattery is counterfeit, and like counterfeit money, it will eventually get you into trouble if you pass it to someone else. The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. -Principle 2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.57 Continue reading Forget about flattery -> give only sincere appreciation.
…if they let their families or employees go for six days without food; but they will let them go for six days, and six weeks, and sometimes sixty years without giving them the hearty appreciation that they crave almost as much as they crave food. -Principle 2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.56 Continue reading People would think they commit a crime…
This is from a man who earned over a million dollar a year when someone earning fifty dollars a week was considered well off. “I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people,” sais Schwab, “the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement. There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize anyone.[…] So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault.” -Charles Schwab *Charles Schwab was one of the first people in … Continue reading I don’t criticize, I believe in giving a person incentive to work instead.
This desire makes you want to wear the latest styles, drive the latest cars, and talk about your brilliant children. -Principle 2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.48 Continue reading The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated
-Principle 1, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.46 Continue reading “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.” Why should you an I?
Bob Hoover, a famous test pilot and frequent performer at air shows, was returning to his home in Los Angeles from an air show in San Diego. As described in the magazine Flight Operations, at three hundred feet in the air, both engines sunddely stopped. By deft maneuvering he managed to land the plane, but it was badly damaged although nobody was hurt. Hoover’s first act after the emergency landing was to inspect the airplane’s fuel. Just as he suspected, the Word War II propeller plane he had been flying had been fueled with jet fuel rather than gasoline. You … Continue reading How to react to someone making a mistake…
But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.” -Principle 1, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.42 Continue reading Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do.
Good! That is fine. I am all in favor of it. But why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others – yes, and a lot less dangerous. -Principle 1, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.41 Continue reading Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve?
It wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense importance, and arouse resentment. -Principle 1, How to Win Friends and Influence People, p.34 Continue reading Criticism is dangerous because…
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