Tag: Happiness

Habits, Happiness

It seems unfair that your habit doesn’t deliver the results expected? Don’t worry, it’s just because your brain is lagging

Chris Labs

You see, most animals live in an immediate-return environment. As an animal, most of your decisions have an immediate impact. You are always thinking about what to eat or where to sleep or how to avoid a predator. You are constantly focused on the present or very near future. Now switch back to your human self. In modern society, many of the choices you make today will not benefit you immediately. If you do a good job at work, you’ll get a paycheck in a few weeks. You live in what scientists call a delayed-return environment because you can work … Continue reading It seems unfair that your habit doesn’t deliver the results expected? Don’t worry, it’s just because your brain is lagging

Negotation Mastery

Every negotiation, every conversation, every moment of life, is a series of small conflicts that, managed well, can rise to creative beauty.

Chris Labs

Embrace them. And so I’m going to leave you with one request: Whether it’s in the office or around the family dinner table, don’t avoid honest, clear conflict. It will get you the best car price, the higher salary, and the largest donation. It will also save your marriage, your friendship, and your family. –Never split the difference, p.243 Continue reading Every negotiation, every conversation, every moment of life, is a series of small conflicts that, managed well, can rise to creative beauty.

Learnings

Show your ability to help someone attain their goal and they will follow you.

Chris Labs

We’re all hungry for a map to joy, and when someone is courageous enough to draw it for us, we naturally follow. So when you ascertain your counterpart’s unattained goals, invoke. your own power and follow-ability by expressing passion for their goals – and for their ability to achieve them. –Never split the difference, p.231 Continue reading Show your ability to help someone attain their goal and they will follow you.

Learnings

Never give advice.

Chris Labs

We have our own lives to live, our own careers to make. We have no way of measuring others’ desires and capacities. Some are weak. A discouraging word at a critical moment may change their entire course. Then the one who gives that word incurs the responsibility. I court no obligations of that kind. Advertising teaches us how fallible are our judgments, even in things we know best. -My life in advertising, p.60 Continue reading Never give advice.

Being Rich

Never loan money to friends.

Chris Labs

If you loan money to a friend, you will lose your friend as well as your money. Give them whatever you feel like giving. Then forget it. Ditto with relatives. If you diligently follow this one piece of advice, you will be saved a sackful of misery. Trust me. Broadcast your policy loudly. This will spare you from many embarassing demands that will otherwise vex you. -How to get rich, p.276 Continue reading Never loan money to friends.

Being Rich

As soon as you’ve spent it, gifted it, loaned it or invested it, forget it.

Chris Labs

More angst and worry comes into the worldfrom concern over past investments, loans and gifts than can be imagined. It’s gone. Forget it. If any of reutrns to you, fine. But that should not be your primary concern, unless you invested for safety’s sake. Do not waste time playing the “blame game” over investments, loans or outright gifts, however large. The blame, if there is any, is yours. -How to get rich, p.276 Continue reading As soon as you’ve spent it, gifted it, loaned it or invested it, forget it.

Happiness

Felix Dennis on the matter of getting rich

Chris Labs

If you are young and reading this then I ask you to remember just this:you are richer than anyone older than you, and far richer than those who aremuch older. What you choose to do with the time that stretches out beforeyou is entirely a matter for you. But do not say you started the journey poor.If you are young, you are infinitely richer than I can ever be again. Money is never owned. It is only in your custody for a while. Time isalways running on, and the young have more of it in their pocket than therichest man … Continue reading Felix Dennis on the matter of getting rich